Work on your self esteem. Odds are, if you struggle with neediness, you're probably a little lacking in the self-esteem department. You might be looking for someone to make you feel better about yourself, but the fact is that you are the only person who can really do that. You shouldn't base your happiness on someone else. Sure, it's okay for someone to make you happy, but if they're your only source of happiness, you might become angry or sad whenever they're not around, and that can be very demanding for the other person!
It makes them feel guilty, obligated and eventually, resentful towards you.
You'll be confident enough to handle relationships without worrying excessively about what the other person thinks. You'll cherish your alone time as much as your time with the person you love.
So its a pragmatic practice to channel that needinesshyperactivity to activities that you enjoy. Seeking new activities, following your passions, signs etc, help in dealing with neediness, but temporarily. People who seem non needy are simply being out their mind's activeness, constructively andor clingy in other areas of life.
Say "I am strong," or "I have everything I need. signs Repeat something in your head that helps you feel like a whole person who doesn't need anyone else to live. Listening being music clingy watching movies about freedom and strength can also help.
Practice quid pro quo (a Latin phrase for "this for that"). Imagine your interaction with this person is like a tennis or volleyball game. Every time you initiate contact, you throw the ball to their side of the court. Then, you have to wait for them to send it back. You don't toss a whole bunch more just to make sure he or she is still interested in playing. If you're a little on the needy side, you probably get nervous and worried while you're waiting.
When this happens, take a deep breath. If you've already gotten in touch with someone (you sent them an e-mail or text message, or you gave them a call and left a voice message) there's no need to do it again. Whenever you do get the urge to contact them again, remember that there are only a few possibilities here:
They haven't gotten the message yet .
What's the commonality in all of the above. They are all fleeting clingy factors. Which means remove that 'external factor' and mind signs become needy again, atleast in that aspect. For example: move to another city away from your friends, lose your job, have being break up etc.
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