The other main stereotype comes from Charlie's Angels. Smith explains, " Ooh, is she hot? Does she handcuff you? A lot of sexual innuendo. Does she tell you want to do? Does she let you touch her gun? All that childish nonsense." This stereotype is built on fantasy and not reality.
Another important task of the partner is feedback. "Women need feedback," Smith explains. "I would really encourage the partner to not allow her to view herself as a victim. Encouraging the officer to look in the mirror and see not a victim but see a warrior.
You have to understand you have entered into a warrior class. You're part of a warrior family because you have chosen someone who is in a warrior class. That's something you have to accept and also embrace."
There are many things the partner can do to. Once again, Smith recommends he or she understand the officer and her job. "A partner of a woman officer needs to understand the female brain, communication differences, and understand that in spite of the fact it is 2009, in many ways, woman police officers are still fighting to have a solid foothold in the profession." Mary chose to date other officers because she felt they already understood her job and she didn't have to explain herself.
This is especially true in reference to police officers' intimate relationships. "Police work is a lifestyle," 29-year veteran Betsy Brantner Smith says.
- The physical and emotional stressors of police work strain the best relationships. Those involving female officers are no different.
- A lot of sexual innuendo.
Like most, understanding and communication are
Female officers are surrounded by men. That can be hard for a partner to handle. "One of the things, they're going to hear is, your girlfriend or girlfriend wife works with all men, aren't you afraid she's going to cheat on you. Do you trust her.
" Smith explains. "That becomes a police issue in police relationships. There are huge, officer trust issues.
- Unfortunately, those in relationships with female officers suffer from a lack of these resources. "There are a lot of groups and clubs and stuff for police wives," Smith states.
- Although immensely helpful to the majority, the issues female officers face goes, many times, unacknowledged. Stereotypes and challenges abound in their quest for a significant other.
- "We want you to love your brothers and sisters and love your job, but don't love the agency.
A lot of sexual innuendo. Does she tell you want to do.
How to Improve Relationships
"There are many traits, both learned and natural, that make us good cops," Smith explains. "We are naturally suspicious. We are hyper-aware.
We are taught from the very beginning that the world is a violent place and people want to hurt us. The problem is when you go home you have problems in relationships."
Being in a relationship with an officer, regardless of gender, can be challenging. Many female partners of male officers have found support in the company of each other. Unfortunately, those in relationships with female officers suffer from a lack of these resources. "There are a lot of groups and clubs and stuff for police wives," Smith states. "There aren't many police husband associations. It takes a strong, secure man not only to be with a female cop but to run around and brag about it.
I happen to be married to one of those guys. He's my third husband and that's not untypical either."
"There are two main stereotypes," Smith
13; 13; "There are two main stereotypes," Smith explains. "One, she is a short-haired, very manly, gruff-voiced woman who is just stomping around telling everyone what to do.
Very masculine. " Like all occupations, female officers run the gamut as far as personal attributes. Regardless, this stereotype is pervasive.
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