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Getting over past relationships

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Everything is absolutely great between us. She’s an extremely caring and loving person, and shows her love to me everyday. I’ve found lately, though, that I can’t get her history out of my head. We’ve had a discussion about it, and she was surprisingly very open to discuss, in general, her past.

She was in a long relationship, six years, which was always off and on. She would date in between breakups.

She would always find something wrong with the guy/or she didn’t see a future with him and break it off. She also told me she’s only had one one night stand. She dated before and after the six year break up. I know she lost her virginity at 17 which is quite normal. I guess I’m troubled that she could go through so many sexual partners, well more than I’m used to, and was in a relationship for so long.

Her number was 16 before me. She knows my discomfort with this and that’s why I don’t bring it up.

Everything is absolutely great between us. She’s an extremely caring and loving person, and shows her love to me everyday. I’ve found lately, though, that I can’t get her history out of my head. We’ve had a discussion about it, and she was surprisingly very open to discuss, in general, her past. She was in a long relationship, six years, which was always off and on. She would date in between breakups. She would always find something wrong with the guy/or she didn’t see a future with him and break it off.

She also told me she’s only had one one night stand. She dated before and after the six year break up. I know she lost her virginity at 17 which is quite normal.

I guess I’m troubled that she could go through so many sexual partners, well more than I’m used to, and was in a relationship for so long. Her number was 16 before me. She knows my discomfort with this and that’s why I don’t bring it up.

) Why am I having these feelingsthoughts. Is it insecurityimmaturityselfishnesspassing judgement. If so, how wrong of me is.

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As you undoubtedly know, a partnership is most likely to survive and thrive when it8217;s based on equality. I hope you will work on this 8211; past for your sake and hers. You wrote a very honest relationships open letter and past relationship sounds so promising. If you can8217;t over this all out with your girlfriend, you might find it useful to have a few sessions over a couples counselor.

A counselor could help relationships get out of your own way. Take your email and this response with you to getting first session to jumpstart the work. getting

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My questions are 1.) How do I deal with this and accept her past so I can concentrate on just us? 2.) Why am I having these feelings/thoughts?

Is it insecurity/immaturity/selfishness/passing judgement? If so, how wrong of me is? Is there a right or wrong here? 3.) Knowing myself, having a hard time letting go of things (stubbornmess), could this be something that inevitably haunts the relationship for as long as we’re together?

Or is it just a speed bump that has come about because I care for her so much?

Everything is absolutely great between us. She’s an extremely caring and loving person, and shows her love to me everyday. I’ve found lately, though, that I can’t get her history out of my head.

We’ve had a discussion about it, and she was surprisingly very open to discuss, in general, her past. She was in a long relationship, six years, which was always off and on. She would date in between breakups.

She would always find something wrong with the guy/or she didn’t see a future with him and break it off. She also told me she’s only had one one night stand. She dated before and after the six year break up. I know she lost her virginity at 17 which is quite normal. I guess I’m troubled that she could go through so many sexual partners, well more than I’m used to, and was in a relationship for so long.

Her number was 16 before me. She knows my discomfort with this and that’s why I don’t bring it up.

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      20.05.2016 Dimka_Smirnov:
      Instead of maligning your own character (insecure, immature, selfish), it would be more helpful for you to look at what is keeping you from taking the next step in a relationship that is so promising.

      23.05.2016 Sheymos_Nofam:
      We all have a past, we all have a story about how we got here to the present past and try as we might we cannot change it. We all make decisions relationships the way, some good, others bad and the outcomes of those getting is ultimately over shapes our very being. Your partners past is precious as it led him on a journey to you.

      15.05.2016 Rokki_Brown:
      If you find your mind drifting towards his past or his ex try to think of something else.

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